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Supercharge Your Goals


No personal development program worth its salt fails to discuss

goals and their importance. As the saying goes, “If you don’t

know where you’re going, any road will get you there.” You can’t

get anywhere without knowing the address. It’s true that the

world’s most capable computer sits between your ears, but if

you don’t give it clear instructions, it can’t deliver.

Or, to use another analogy, the first step in building a new

house is to create an idea of what the end product will look

like. Then you can work the details of what you want to have

in it. Based on that, you can develop the blueprint. Once you

have the blueprint, you can create a plan for actually building

the house.

The first step in achieving the life you deserve and desire is

having a vision or a goal. You need to know what you’re looking

to create in your life. Goals need to be developed in every area

of your life, whether financial, spiritual, relational, or personal.

The clearer the goal, the better your brain can utilize its ability

to shift it from idea to reality.

Don’t underestimate your capability when developing your

goals. You can attain any goal you wish, regardless of the fact

that you do not know how to achieve it.

The universe has no limitations and has an enormous abundance

for you to tap in to by using the rules that work. There

are more than enough resources available for the taking. Your

goals are available to you, but there are rules in the universe

that you need to follow. These rules are the secret of how all

the people who live the lives of their dreams have successfully

accomplished their feat. Once you understand and apply them,

you will own the power to create what you dream and desire

and bring it to fruition.

The Difference Between Goals and Expectations

Before we work on these goals, let’s look at the difference

between goals and expectations. The importance of this distinction

cannot be underestimated. Confusing these two concepts

can be the difference between success and failure – whether

you live your dream life or not.

What is the difference? It is one thing to set a goal towards

achieving an outcome, which, as discussed earlier, most likely

will require you to work through a fair bit of pain. It is quite

another to simply expect an outcome, as if it will happen just

because you want it to, with little work involved and certainly

no pain.

A goal pulls you in the direction you choose to move

towards. It is your guiding light. It gives you direction and drive

so you will continue working towards your desired outcome.

As you make progress and get closer to your goal, then you

celebrate and fuel the success cycle. That gives you a renewed

and powerful momentum, enabling you to move towards the

outcome with greater precision and vigor.

Unrealistic Expectations

A positive self-image is essential for physical and psychological

well-being.

If, in the course of bolstering your confidence, you set unrealistic

expectations, you’re setting the stage for a bout of anxiety

and depression. Life is not perfect – accept it.

Exemplary performance – on the job or at home – is one way

to make yourself feel good. It’s commendable to work towards

a goal and succeed. But what happens if you don’t function up

to par? You must learn to distinguish between excellence and

perfection. Excellence is an acceptable goal. Allow room for

growth and room for occasional error.

Consider these unrealistic expectations:

• “I should always be an amazing person…parent…spouse.”

• “I should always be happy.”

• “People should always treat me as I treat them.”

• “I should always be more outgoing.”

Be honest with yourself – these are unrealistic expectations,

which are difficult, if not impossible, to achieve.

How about this scenario:

• “I expect to overcome my anxiety completely, now.”

This is also not realistic. Your anxiety and depression did

not appear in one second, so how can they be expected to

vanish in one second?

So what happens? Your anxiety remains, and you get irritated

and frustrated. You feel like a loser. You lose hope. You

lose control.

How about this one?

• “I expect to see a noticeable improvement in my anxiety

and depression.”

This is realistic. You will feel like a winner even when you’ve

achieved only a modicum of improvement. Your hope is reinforced,

and your self-esteem is strengthened. You’re motivated

to continue working on recovery. You feel satisfied and content.

Set standards that reflect your values and that are within

your grasp. When you reach them, you’ll be thrilled and feel

great; you’ll be motivated to move ahead.

You need to review your expectations and adjust them

realistically!

Why do you make unrealistic expectations that are destined

to disillusion you? The truth is, many of your expectations

are impressed on you by others. They impose their desires

and expect you to deliver. You need to rework your expectations

so they’re realistic – so you don’t fall into the throes of

disappointment.

Make realistic expectations for yourself and for others. Start

achieving them and enjoy the process of success!

When expectations are misunderstood and mis-utilized,

the results can be detrimental. For example, if you expect to

make a million dollars, earning “only” nine hundred thousand

will upset you. Even though you have achieved a major success

in moving towards your goal, you will be frustrated that you fell

short of your expectations.

Frustration is a negative emotion that kills your drive in

achieving your goals. It is the feeling of not being in control, the

feeling of being out of power and being defeated. Feeling that

you’re not in control destroys your momentum. Your feeling

of failure will hamper you from moving ahead with full force

towards your goals.

Imagine that you attained 90% of your expectations. You

would feel unstoppable and in control. This would empower

you to have the confidence to utilize a larger portion of your

personal power and supercharge yourself to get what you want.

The best thing you can do is dispose of your dysfunctional

expectations, ones that you know you will probably never

deliver on. Hanging on to them will only break your momentum

and rob you of confidence and feelings of empowerment.

The two major perpetrators in this regard are unrealistic

expectations and high expectations.

Unrealistic expectations are ones that will never happen, yet

you expect them to, setting yourself up for failure. When you

fail, this diminishes your momentum and self-confidence.

High expectations could happen, but they also set you up for

possible failure because of how difficult they are to attain.

Don’t set expectations too high. Remember, your goal is to

meet your expectations 90% of the time. That will increase your

momentum and build your self-confidence.

There are three categories of expectations that have great

control over you:

1. Expectations you have of yourself.

2. Expectations others have of you.

3. Expectations you have of others.

These expectations must be recognized so you can successfully

mitigate them and free yourself from their trap. Doing so

will substantially increase the power you need to move towards

your goals.

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Ben is the President of the F.A.S.T Center for Personal/Professional Development. He is the author Of the Book “Supercharge Your Emotions To Win” 7 Keys to  Achieve the Life You Desire & Deserve.

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